Here's How Long It Actually Takes to Get Over a Breakup

Here’s some truth about breakups: Every single one of them totally, completely, utterly sucks. Even if your partner was no bueno, even if you were the one who ended things, even if it was an amicable split, a breakup can sometimes leave you facing a serious identity loss. 

But, hi, grieving the death of a relationship is totally a real thing-and no one expects you to bounce back overnight. So what is the appropriate amount of time it takes to get over a split? Well, depends a lot on who you're asking. 

1. Screw the timeline

Whether you were the dumper or the dumpee, there are no rules. In other words, there's no designated time frame for getting over a breakup. Putting a timeline on your breakup can slow down your healing process.“The best way to speed things along is to just let ourselves feel what we feel as fully as we can

2. Feel at your own pace 

Eventually, you’ll have mourned your loss well enough to either channel your best Rihanna and embrace single life for a bit, or start dating new people. And truth be told, there's really no exact amount of time for this. But, if you are comparing potential partners based on how much they are or are not like your ex, you’re still healing “You’ve moved on when you can get to know someone on their own terms versus as a comparison,” 

3. Date for love, not fear 

Still on the fence about whether you’re ready to start swiping again? Ask yourself if your actions are being lead by love or fear. “If you’re dating because you’re afraid to be alone, desperate to stop hurting, or certain that nobody will ever find you attractive again, those are fears,” I say “Being lead by love means trusting that you have a lot to give, and being excited about the possibilities of a new partnership.”

4. Learn from the relationship 

Love stories (and breakups) are far from one-dimensional-there are bad times, good times, things you loved about the relationship, and issues that were maybe too big to overcome. Before you can fully move on, figure out how the story of this relationship fits into the larger story of your life. Know that every relationship is a lesson learned, so decide what you want to take away from this one and into your next partnership. 

Write yourself a letter about why things ended-which, will come in extra handy if you find yourself temped to hook up with your ex down the road (which is generally a recipe for more pain and confusion).

5. Get under someone to get over someone (but only if you want to)

And only if you won't experience an emotional hangover post-sex (like, if you're fine and willing to accept the sex for what it is: rebound sex). 

Know that a one-night-stand likely won’t lead to something long-term, but the age-old saying actually does have some truth to it if you're emotionally prepared for the effects. “Love is a delicious cocktail of neurohormones, so you actually go through a kind of drug withdrawal after a breakup. As long as you understand it’s a rebound and a replacement drug, don’t be judgmental of yourself for moving on “too soon.”

6. Give yourself a clean break

We’ve all been there. We know it’s very tempting to stalk an ex on Instagram or text them after a second glass of wine, but it will only reignite old feelings and drag out your pain. You lost a piece of yourself and your brain has to heal in order for you to move on. So block them on social media, delete them from your phone, and find a new coffee shop. A proper separation means setting healthy boundaries for yourself and completely cutting your ex out of your life-both online and IRL. The sooner you cut out your ex, the faster you can move on. 

7. Self-care is key

In the meantime, as your feelings shift from cynicism into exciting possibility, surround yourself with good people who love you for you and remind you how lovable you are. So plan brunch with your sister, have a girls’ night in with your besties, or cuddle your dog. Don’t let yourself be defined by the breakup; instead, see this as the perfect time to refuel your passions for cooking and horse-back riding that fell to the wayside.

And don’t forget about doin' you: Eat well, sleep well, hit the gym, and schedule regular massages (for the touch and dopamine boost). Promise: you’ll be back to feeling like your old, amazing self-and reclaiming your belief in love-in no time.

If You Can Solve This Puzzle, You Could Qualify to Be a British Spy

There are puzzles that test your intelligence, and there are puzzles that test your skills. But none have required extreme, sleuth-worthy superpowers, until now. Even better, solving this puzzle could make you qualified to be an astronaut.

BBC Radio 4’s “Today” recently broadcasted a mind-boggling riddle that is sure to leave you scratching your head. It was created by the British National Cyber Security Centre (NCSC), an organization that detects and fights against computer security threats.

Hoping to recruit future spies, the NCSC posed this question for listeners: “Thirteen rotters stole my answer and they ROTated it by 4 and then ROTated it by 10 and all I have left is Uccr ziqy hc ozz QmpsfTwfgh Uwfzg! Can you help me get my answer back?”

Unless you’re already a secret agent in disguise, you might need a hint to decode this tricky riddle. According to Curiosity, this is an example of a “Caesar cipher,” which scrambles a message by moving each letter a certain number of positions down the alphabet. For example, if all letters were shifted left by 3, D would become A, E would become B, etc.

What’s more, the phrase “thirteen rotters” refers to “ROT13,” a cipher that replaces each letter with a letter that comes 13 letters after it. Piece of cake?

To decode the riddle, Curiosity recommends writing down the entire alphabet before you begin. Then, start with the first letter in the message (U) and count four letters back; you should get Q. That covers the part of the riddle that says, “they ROTated it by 4.”

Now, the puzzle says, they “ROTated it by 10.” Count back 10 more letters, and you get G. That is the first letter of the solution. Repeat this process for every letter in the message to unscramble the code.

What did you get? If your final answer reads, 'Good luck to all CyberFirst girls!,' congratulations, you solved the riddle. One application for the British secret intelligence, coming right up! 

This Is the Number One Reason Why Men Cheat

Contrary to popular belief, a lack of sexual satisfaction in a relationship is not the primary reason that men cheat; there are actually a number of surprising factors that lead to infidelity.

Evolutionary scientists argue that men are often driven to stray by a primal urge to “spread their seed” though this theory is becoming increasingly unpopular. Research has shown that everything from whether or not your partner’s parents were faithful to one another to a man’s hormone levels to his age play a significant role in the decision to break the trust in a relationship.

The reasons a man might have for cheating can also range from feeling ignored in a marriage to experiencing a midlife crisis to having doubts about the relationship. Though, that being said, a recent survey of over 2,000 Europeans and Americans found that the primary reason that American men gave for committing infidelity were “the other person was really hot” and “people were hitting on me.” So…maybe sometimes they’re not that complex.

But the number one reason why men cheat seems to be to get an ego boost. It’s no secret that people who have low self-esteem are more likely to cheat; low self-worth creates a craving for external validation, and getting it from one person frequently just isn’t enough. Unfortunately for their partners, men with self-esteem issues are less likely to leave a relationship that doesn’t fulfill their needs, because they fear being alone, and are therefore more likely to use cheating as a coping mechanism for their own insecurities.

But it’s also widely accepted that the male ego is more intrinsically linked to sex than the female ego, which is why men still tend to fixate on their penis size and their sexual “performance” more so than women. This is probably one of the reasons that they are more likely to cheat when they get older they still need validation from women to feel desirable, and sometimes, getting that attention from their partner alone just won’t cut it. It’s also at the center of this depressing May 2015 study that found that  men who are 100% financially dependent on their wives are three times more likely to cheat than men who live in households in which they are the breadwinner.

I think it has to do with our cultural notions of what it means to be a man and what … the social expectations are for masculinity. Because he feels like his masculinity is threatened, he might overcompensate by engaging in behavior associated with masculinity, like sex with strangers.

So if staying faithful is something that’s important to you, be sure to pick a partner who doesn’t have an ego the size of a penny. Your heart will thank you for it.

Your secrets affect your emotional health and wellness.

The first thing you should know is that everyone has secrets and lying is just a part of life. The second thing you should know is that your secrets and lies affect your well-being emotionally, physically, and mentally.

What is a secret? Webster’s Dictionary defines the word as,"Something that is kept or meant to be kept unknown or unseen by others."

Just like clothes cover up the parts of your body that you don’t want to expose, like jiggly thighs or a fat belly, secrets cover up the parts of your life that you would like to keep buried.

No matter how hard you try, your secret is never completely hidden. Even if others don’t know about it, you do. It infects your mental health and well being, including your thoughts, actions, and view of the world.

Why do people lie and keep secrets?

Confidence, mystery, enigma, riddle, surprise, and the "skeleton in the closet" are all synonyms of the word secret. Which one do you resonate with?

Is your secret an enigma? Was it a surprise to you when it happened? 

Does it feel like a riddle that you’re trying to solve? Or is your secret a "skeleton in the closet" that is kept on the top shelf in a sealed, nondescript box you hope will never be discovered?

Here’s the thing, you’ve been keeping secrets since you were a kid. Remember when your mom would yell at you from another room and ask what you were doing?

You would yell back, "Nothing" when in fact you were painting the wall, cutting gum out of your sister’s hair, or trying on makeup that you weren’t supposed to touch.

You tell a white lie that becomes a secret to keep the heat off and to get what you want. It’s a reflex that seems innocent enough.

As you evolve from stuffing more Halloween candy into your mouth than your parents told you to have or not brushing your teeth before bed, so do your secrets.

No matter the secret, the reasons people keep them are the same. You are afraid, ashamed, and loyal. You want to look good, be good, and be liked.

You intrinsically fear that if anyone found out about what you're hiding, they would pull away from you. 

They might tell someone else. They would view you differently. You would be exposed and vulnerable, the target of criticism and judgment.

That scares people. It is part of the human condition to want to be loved and accepted but the secrets you keep feel unacceptable. If you haven’t been able to accept your secrets, forgive yourself, and move on from them, how can you expect others to?

You can’t. And you don’t. So, you keep them hidden.

Think of the word for a minute. Secret. What comes up for you when you read it?

Say it out loud. How do you feel when you hear it? Do you feel mischievous?

Does it bring up shame? Does it remind you of a school crush you had when you were a girl and didn't want your best friend to tell?

Or, does it illicit something dark and more sinister about who you are on the inside and the things that you have thought, said, and done?

Whatever it triggers for you know this, your secrets were created to protect you. They keep you safe. They are a tool you use to survive the human experience.

Secrets are not all created equal. There are the harmless ones that are fun, like keeping a surprise, and there are the ones that you keep from others about who you are and the things you've done. And, there are the ones that you keep for others.

These last two categories really hurt you, leading to stress and anxiety. Think of how you feel when someone tells you something and you have to hold their secret. Maybe they told you they cheated on a test. Maybe they stole something, cheated on their spouse, or lied to their boss.

You are left to keep this knowledge in secret. On the other side of that, you keep secrets about yourself, what you think, what you've done, and the things you are ashamed of.

These types of secrets are stored in your body. You keep them as a physical burden you get stress headaches, anxiety, stomach aches, depression and more. And so the saying, "You are as sick as your secrets" is true.

Your secrets affect your emotional health and wellness.

They keep you sick. You live small, scared that if anyone really knows the truth about who you are and what you’ve done that they won’t like, love, or hire you. You are left ruminating on your secrets, which can lead to anxiety and stress.

Living with secrets makes you doubt yourself. Your secrets make you afraid. You live behind them and don’t interact or show your true self to the world because of fear. You hold back and this keeps you from getting the love you deserve, the friendships you want, or the job promotion, and the ability to reach your earning potential.

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Free Cone Day at Dairy Queen Is Almost Here

Spring has (almost) sprung and Dairy Queen is celebrating in the best way possible: By giving customers free ice cream.

On the first day of spring Wednesday, March 20, you can get one free small vanilla soft-serve cone at participating Dairy Queen locations. That’s it! There are no strings attached and you don’t have to buy anything else. Just show up and snag your treat.

Everyone knows that ice cream is the universal key to happiness, but DQ decided to conduct a survey to prove it once and for all.

Here are the results:

92.2 percent of Americans say a DQ soft-serve cone would make them happy.

People are happier on Free Cone Day than they are on their own birthday.

61.6 percent would share a bite of their DQ cone with their significant other, but only 23 percent would share the first bite.

“We love that our tradition of Free Cone Day has become synonymous with return of warmer weather and bringing people together,” We know the start of soft-serve season brings joy to our fans, and we can’t wait to help spread smiles.

If you happen to miss Free Cone Day, don’t panic! You can get a small regular or dipped soft-serve cone for just 50 cents from March 21 to March 31.

Chaga Mushroom

Other name(s): Birch Mushroom, Chaga Conk, Cinder Conk, Clinker Polypore, Inonotus obliquus, Tchaga.

Many brushcrafters use this as a tea to drink when out on the trails and camping but they do need to be aware and ask themselves "is this really safe for me to drink?"

Overview Information

Chaga is a fungus. It produces a woody growth, called a conk, which is used to make medicine.

People take chaga by mouth for heart disease, diabetes, stomach and intestine cancer, liver disease, parasites, stomach pain, and tuberculosis.

How does it work?

Chaga might stimulate the immune system. It contains some chemicals that have antioxidant effects. Chaga might lower blood sugar and cholesterol levels.

Uses & Effectiveness?
Insufficient Evidence for

• Heart disease.
• Diabetes.
• Stomach and intestinal cancer.
• Liver disease.
• Tuberculosis.
• Other conditions.

More evidence is needed to rate the effectiveness of chaga for these uses.

Side Effects & Safety

It isn’t known if chaga is safe or what the possible side effects might be.
Special Precautions & Warnings:

Pregnancy and breast-feeding: Not enough is known about the use of chaga during pregnancy and breast-feeding. Stay on the safe side and avoid use.

"Auto-immune diseases"such as multiple sclerosis (MS), lupus (systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE), rheumatoid arthritis (RA), or other conditions: Chaga might cause the immune system to become more active. This could increase the symptoms of auto-immune diseases. If you have one of these conditions, it’s best to avoid using chaga.

Bleeding disorders: There is concern that chaga might increase the risk of bleeding. Don’t use chaga if you have a bleeding disorder.

Diabetes: Chaga might lower blood sugar levels in people with diabetes. Watch for signs of low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) and monitor your blood sugar carefully if you have diabetes and use chaga products. The dose of your diabetes medications may need to be adjusted by your healthcare provider.

Surgery: Chaga might affect blood sugar control or increase the risk of bleeding during and after surgery. Stop using chaga at least 2 weeks before a scheduled surgery.

Dosing

The appropriate dose of chaga depends on several factors such is the user's age, health, and several other conditions. At this time there is not enough scientific information to determine an appropriate range of doses for chaga. Keep in mind that natural products are not always necessarily safe and dosages can be important. Be sure to follow relevant directions on product labels and consult your pharmacist or physician or other healthcare professional before using.

My Death-My Decision

Assisted Dying In Other Countries

In the UK our end of life choices for those who wish to take some control of the timing of their death are currently limited, (described here). We do not have the option of the type of peaceful, medically assisted death we might like.

Currently, voluntary euthanasia and/or doctor-assisted suicide is legally available in Belgium, Canada, Colombia, Luxembourg, The Netherlands, Switzerland, and in six US States (California, Colorado, Montana, Oregon, Vermont and Washington State).

Switzerland

In Switzerland, assisting suicide has not been a crime since suicide was decriminalised during the enlightenment. In 1918 the Swiss government pointed out that if assistance was done with selfish motives, it should be punished. Examples given were pressurising someone to commit suicide with the aim of inheriting earlier than with a natural death, or having the intention of no longer needing to support a family member – clearly, immoral motives. The Swiss Federal Criminal Code was finalised in 1937 and came into force on 1 January 1942, the relevant article 115 states:

Inciting and assisting suicide:
Any person who for selfish motives incites or assists another to commit or attempt to commit suicide is, if that other person thereafter commits or attempts to commit suicide, liable to a custodial sentence not exceeding five years or to a monetary penalty.

The legal consequence of this is that assisting a person to commit suicide is legal as long as the person who assists does not have selfish motives. The person being assisted must be an adult, fully competent and doing the last act which brings about death themself. Voluntary euthanasia, (by someone administering a lethal injection, for example), is prohibited in Switzerland.

From the 1980s onwards, the law was interpreted as legal permission to establish non-profit member’s societies to enable assisted/accompanied suicide for mentally-competent adults and other services such as setting up health care advance directives. Today, there are two large organizations, both called Exit, based in Geneva and Zurich, which are for Swiss nationals only, and another two which are mainly for foreigners: Dignitas, near Zurich, and Lifecircle, in Basel.  In this respect Switzerland is unique as the only country which offers assistance to die to foreign nationals. In 2011 two votes in the Canton of Zürich showed strong support to continue both to permit assisted suicide, and to accept foreigners.

In general, those who are eligible for an assisted suicide are adults who are terminally ill, who are suffering from a severe disability, and elderly persons whose lives have become too arduous as a result of medical conditions related to old age.  Despite such assistance being a practice for several decades, today, still only about 1.5% of Swiss deaths are due to assisted suicide.

The Netherlands

In The Netherlands, since 1981, both voluntary euthanasia and doctor-assisted suicide have been accepted for those who were experiencing unbearable suffering without the prospect of improvement. Although not legalised until 2002, the practices were initially tolerated under guidelines prepared by the main national legal and medical organizations. In practice, very few Dutch nationals choose doctor assisted suicide, preferring euthanasia. There is no requirement to be “terminally ill”, nor is there any mandatory waiting period.

While the great majority of Dutch doctors support the law (figures up to 90% have been quoted), only about 60% have ever performed euthanasia.  At present, about 3% of all deaths are due to voluntary euthanasia – and, all such deaths have to be reported.  Cancer accounts for at least 70% of all euthanasia deaths; presently, another 4% are due to dementia (in the early stages of this disease when the patient is still mentally competent to make a request, or in an advanced stage if a patient has made a detailed request for euthanasia in an advance decision), and about 3% are elderly individuals without a serious disease.  In The Netherlands, children as young as twelve, who are terminally ill, can request euthanasia, with parental consent (in fact, up to 2014, only five have died this way).  Today, unlike a decade or so ago, the palliative care services in The Netherlands are considered to be among the best in Europe.

Belgium

Voluntary euthanasia and doctor-assisted suicide have been legal in Belgium since 2002. The palliative care services and the option of medically-assisted dying are well integrated.  As in The Netherlands, euthanasia (doctor-assisted suicide is rarely requested) can be provided to all competent adults who are suffering irreversibly – but, if a patient is not terminally ill, there is a one-month waiting period before euthanasia can be performed.  All medically-assisted deaths are reported to a Control and Evaluation Commission.  Since 2014, competent children can receive euthanasia if they are terminally ill and in great pain.  About 4% of all deaths in Belgium are due to doctor-assisted dying.

Luxembourg

In Luxembourg, legislation for voluntary euthanasia was passed in 2009.  But, in this small country, up to 2015, less than fifty of its citizens had died this way.

Colombia

In Colombia, where its Constitutional Court had approved the possibility of voluntary euthanasia in 1997, the first such death only occurred in 2015.  This is the only jurisdiction that requires the prior approval of euthanasia requests by an independent committee.

Canada

The province of Quebec adopted legislation for doctor-assisted suicide in 2014, and the Federal Government took similar steps in 2016.  Now, in this country, all competent, adult Canadians who suffer from a “grievous and irremediable condition” and whose death is “reasonably foreseeable” can receive medical assistance to die.  This refusal, by a country so similar to the UK, to use a precise definition for a “terminal illness” (such as “expected to die within six months”) is to be welcomed.

Canada, excluding Quebec, allows either medically assisted suicide or euthanasia. In Quebec, only euthanasia is allowed. This is another interesting departure from the “Oregon model” used in the USA, and used as the basis for recent UK proposals.

USA

In 1997 Oregon became the first state to legalize doctor-assisted suicide for terminally-ill adults (those with a prognosis for survival of six months or less).  Later, in 2008, Washington State adopted the same law: to be followed by Vermont in 2013, and California and Colorado in 2016.  In Montana, its Supreme Court, in 2009, agreed that doctor-assisted suicide could be allowed.

In these States, while a doctor has to write a prescription for the necessary medication, a healthcare professional need not be present when the terminally-ill patient decides to die.  All these States require a fifteen-day period between two oral requests and a two-day waiting period between a final written request and the dispensing of the prescription.

All assisted suicide deaths must be reported in each of these States. Detailed annual reports are provided which indicate that the great majority of Americans deciding to die this way are already receiving extensive palliative care, and that they are usually well-educated individuals, with medical insurance coverage.  In Oregon, where only 1% of doctors have written prescriptions for the necessary medication, less than 0.4% of all deaths are due to doctor-assisted suicide. Pain motivated only one-third of people to die this way, with most citing a loss of autonomy or dignity, or an inability to do things that made life enjoyable. One-third who receive the lethal medication never use it, but benefit from the knowledge that an end to their suffering is at hand, should they need it.

Euthanasia law by country

1.1 Argentina
1.2 Australia
1.3 Belgium
1.4 Canada
1.5 Chile
1.6 Colombia
1.7 Denmark
1.8 Finland
1.9 France
1.10 Germany
1.11 India
1.12 Ireland
1.13 Israel
1.14 Japan
1.15 Latvia
1.16 Lithuania
1.17 Luxembourg
1.18 Mexico
1.19 Netherlands
1.20 New Zealand
1.21 Norway
1.22 Peru
1.23 Portugal
1.24 South Korea
1.25 Philippines
1.26 Switzerland
1.27 Sweden
1.28 Turkey
1.29 United Kingdom
1.30 United States
1.31 Uruguay

Why Do We Really Move the Clock Forward?

When local time on Sunday, March 10, is 2 a.m., the clocks will turn forward one hour to 3 a.m. The time of sunrise and sunset will then be an hour later than the previous day, and there will be more light in the evening.

Standard time will move to daylight saving time, or summer time, as it’s known in Europe. The change forward, applied in the spring, and back, applied in the fall, is intended to make better use of sunlight. Even though different countries have different dates for changing the clock, the idea is the same to have as much daylight as possible.

Benjamin Franklin is often credited as the first person to propose changing the time in his 1784 essay “An Economical Project.” The idea was seriously considered more than a century later, when William Willetts, a British builder, fiercely advocated for it. His argument was that people like long evenings because they can do more, and that they regret missing the opportunity to make the most of bright mornings in the summer as they are still sleeping.

Different acts were passed in Germany and Great Britain over the years. The countries applied various schemes of moving the clock forward and back sometimes by minutes a few weeks in a row and sometimes choosing a fixed day for summer times.

Daylight saving time, as we know and use it today, was suggested by an entomologist from New Zealand, George Hudson. In 1895, he recommended a two-hour time change because he wanted to have more daylight after work to go hunting for bugs in the summer.

The benefits of day light savings time were first recognized during World War I, when Germany was looking for ways to save energy. Germany moved the clock forward to have more daylight while people were at work. Several countries, including the United States in 1918, followed suit. DST was used again in World War II as a way to save energy for war production. To avoid confusion among states about changing dates, a federal law was passed in 1966 standardizing the length and times of DST for the country.

Nowadays, the use of DST has become controversial because it no longer saves energy, certainly not as much as a century ago. While people may delay switching the lights on in the evening, they are using electricity during dark mornings.

Geography is an important factor as well. Many countries in the Southern Hemisphere especially those along and below the equator don’t use daylight saving time at all because the hours of sunlight they get every day barely vary throughout the year about 12 hours. The farther countries are from the equator, the less sunlight they get during the day. Hawaii, Arizona (except the Navajo Nation), and overseas U.S. territories don’t observe day light savings time.

Of the large countries in South America, only Brazil and Chile enact DST. Australia does not have a federal rule; it’s up to separate regions to decide. Western Australia, Queensland, and the Northern Territory don’t observe DST. Neither do China, Japan, South Korea, Taiwan, South Africa, and India. In Europe, the most famous example of a country that chooses not to turn its clock forward or back is Iceland, despite its far northern location.

Another movement against day light savings time focuses on negative health outcomes. Cluster headaches are more likely within two week of the day time changes, and people are more prone to car crashes because of the one less hour of sleep. The incidence of heart attacks may also increase as a result of the time change in March, and more people seek help for depression over approximately 10 weeks after the transition from summer to standard time.

Dumb ass criminals who was caught by social media

Catch me if you can

Convicted thief James xxxxx, of Oregon, was tired of the court-ordered drug treatment he had accepted to avoid prison. So naturally, he packed up his bags and left the state, but not without a little virtual taunting.

xxxxxx, apparently eager to boast about his escape from Oregon, updated his Facebook profile almost constantly as he drove across the country. He directed many of the sneery posts toward his probation officer, “Fresh out of another state,” he wrote in one. “Catch me if you can.” In another, he avoided all discretion entirely: “I’m in Alabama.”

As luck would have it, xxxxx was pulled over for speeding in Daphne, Ala. soon after. The officer ran his license and immediately found the warrant that had been issued for his arrest.

xxxxx was ordered to reimburse the state $2,600 for his flight back to Oregon and was sent to prison for 30 months

The Classic “Siphon Gas From a Cop Car and Share It on Facebook” Maneuver

Twenty-year-old xxxxx, from Jenkins, Ky., was jailed after he posted a photo of himself on Facebook siphoning gas from a local police vehicle.

The photo shows xxxxx flipping the bird while swiping fuel from a Jenkins Police Department squad car. The photo circulated through the town of 2,000, and before long, xxxxx was charged with theft for unlawful tanking and spent the night in the slammer.

The incident didn’t seem to embarrass him or deter his Facebook habit. After he was released, he posted this on his page: “yea lol i went too sic jail over facebook.”

Be Careful Who You “Like”

A registered sex offender was arrested in Bluefield, Va. earlier this year after an unfortunate “liking” incident gave away his location.

Dyllan Naecher, 29, fled to Virginia after he became wanted in the state of Maryland. In an attempt to keep a close eye on the local police force, Naecher’s girlfriend, 22-year-old xxxxx, “liked” the Tazewell Police Department’s Facebook page. The “like” gave police direct access to her account, which conveniently included a picture of Naecher. After a bit more digging, Tazewell officers found the pair’s address and arrested both the next day.

Always Log Out

A woman in Martinsburg, W. Va. came home to discover two diamond rings missing. She also noticed that someone had logged into Facebook on her computer,  and had forgotten to log out.

The burglar, 19-year-old xxxxx, was easily tracked down and the stolen jewelry was returned.

#booby trap

Two men were arrested in April 2012 for planting deadly, medieval-like booby traps along a popular hiking trail near Provo, Utah.

xxxxx, 19, and xxxxx 21, were tipped off to police after they chatted to each other about the traps through,  what else?  Facebook. The men claimed they had set up the traps to kill animals, not people, but the police weren’t buying it.

One of the traps in particular was designed to swing a grapefruit-sized rock, armed with wooden spikes, at whoever set it off

Glamour Mug Shot

Nineteen-year-old xxxxx, of Washington, D.C., broke into Washington Post reporter Marc Fisher’s home in January 2011. After nabbing a coat, petty cash and a laptop, xxxxx logged into Fisher’s son’s Facebook account and posted a photo of himself with the soon-to-be-stolen goods.

xxxxx freebie mug shot led to his arrest a few days later. He pleaded guilty to both burglary and carrying a pistol without a license.

The psychological reasons why being single is good for your self-esteem and makes your future relationships stronger

Scientific research has shown there are numerous physical and mental benefits to being single. But some people still find the idea terrifying. 

I notice that many people are afraid of being alone. There are many people who feel like this they are hardly afraid of anything more than being alone, like it's the worst case that could ever happen.

Some people jump from relationship to relationship because they are hooked on the pleasant feelings they get from the attention, but this means they are also at a greater risk of falling for someone toxic. This is because being with someone who is wrong for them is better than being alone.

I know people who have never been single in their life. And if you think about it, it's a weird fear, you know, I think if you are alone, if you are single, it is a good opportunity to get to know yourself and learn to love yourself more. If you get all of your self-confidence and self-worth from what someone else is telling you, you'll become dependent on it.

For example, it's wonderful to hear that you're lovable, beautiful, and amazing, but if you're not telling yourself the same thing, you're only getting validation from outside. Then if your partner cheats on you, leaves you for someone else, or even dies, this stream of validation disappears. 

You will feel like you're in withdrawal and this is a bad feeling, But this is not because being alone is so bad, it's because you are dependent on the validation of the person in the first place.

If you approach relationships in this way looking to replace the feelings of validation you lost from a former partner with a new one - you're more likely to feel animosity about your exes. These will be people who don't talk to their ex-boyfriends or girlfriends, They remove them, they're dismissed, It's like getting the new fix.

It's very hard to break this toxic cycle, but it can be done by embracing being single when the chance comes around. This is because developing emotional independence will actually help you become more emotionally stable.

If you understand yourself first of all, you will be able to understand others much more. You'll know about your needs and your expectations, and you will understand why certain people act the way they do.

Learning about yourself will also help you in the future when you do find the right person. You'll realize that relationships are about giving, not receiving, and you'll feel more confident because you know you can overcome it if the relationship doesn't work out. 

"I believe I'm strong enough to handle it, so I take a higher risk in the relationship at the end," 

Imagine two people who love themselves and love each other dearly, who just give love to each other instead of asking for it. It's a beautiful relationship, and this is what a healthy relationship is.

This Is How Barbie Got Her Name

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know who Barbie is. For the past six decades, the career-swapping children’s toy has been a fixture in both popular culture and kid’s rooms from coast to coast. She’s unmissable. But do you know how Barbie came to be called, well, Barbie? It’s a more personal origin story than you might imagine.

Ruth Handler, a co-founder of Mattel, came up on the idea for the toy after seeing her daughter and friends playing with paper dolls for hours on end. The children would have their paper dolls fulfill various roles of girls or women years older than they were: cheerleaders, college students, career women. Handler came upon the idea of creating a 3-D doll for “girls to play out their dreams.” Using a German doll as a model, Handler gave her invention a distinctly American look, wardrobe, and name.

Okay, so why “Barbie?” Simple: it’s a classic case of “art imitates life.” Handler’s daughter, the person most responsible for inspiring her to develop the idea of the doll, was named Barbara. It was a tribute to the girl and a way for Handler to show her gratitude. (Since Barbara was 17 by the time the doll actually hit shelves, she was not exactly the target market by the time it actually came available.)

Like icons from Cher to Madonna, Barbie is known simply by her first name, but she has middle and last names, too. When she first debuted in 1959 at the New York Toy Fair, almost exactly 60 years ago, Barbie was dubbed “Barbara Millicent Roberts” and said to be a “teenage fashion model.” Details are scant about where these names came from, though they carry the all-American sound that Mattel was going for with the character. Barbie was initially greeted with skepticism by the industry, considering she didn’t quite look like the other dolls on the market, but, thanks to an unconventional form and a pioneering marketing campaign on the part of Mattel, grew to be a huge success. Now, 60 years later, Barbie is still flying off shelves according to a CNBC report, Barbie sales recently hit five straight quarters of growth and still giving young girls the idea that they can be anyone they want to be.

Of course, Barbie’s boyfriend is an icon in his own right. Ken was named after Handler’s son (apparently the inventor didn’t see anything all that strange about having characters named after her son and daughter date each other, but that’s her business). Less-famed are Barbie’s rather extensive friends and family, including three sisters (Skipper, Stacie, and Chelsea), a few cousins, and a ton of friends, chief among them, her longest, Midge.

While Barbie’s popularity has endured, the popularity of “Barbie” as a name has had its up and downs. According to the Social Security Administration, the name’s popularity spiked shortly after the doll’s launch, with between 70 to 100 babies per million named “Barbie” throughout the early-to-mid-1960s. The name never returned to that level of interest, dwindling to its current level, between 10 and 20 babies per million, from the 1990s on. Art may imitate life. But life doesn’t always imitate art.